Dear Parent,

Thank you for your question!

Independent learning is an important step for every student to make and it sounds as though you are on the right track with your daughter.

Independent learning will vary according to the needs of the student, and the preference of the mother. For instance, some mothers can be by their child's side through most of the school day. This isn't necessarily bad. It depends on how much attention that student needs. Sometimes children, who are new to homeschooling, need to have that extra attention.

However, independence must be taught gradually. Ideally by the time the child is ready for middle school and the upper grades, the student should work independently at least 80-90% of the school day. For example, you can read the instructions for the math lesson together, but she should finish the work on her own. If you know she is having difficulty in a subject, obviously you will want to spend more time with her. However, if you know that your daughter can do the work, then let her know that she is expected to work independently.

Most mothers must not only juggle homeschooling, but they have many other duties that go with running a household. Many mothers who homeschool, also have several children, including infants. Therefore, these mothers simply do not have the time to stay by their children's side throughout the school day. From a practical stand point, it is therefore advantageous for the student to be a fairly independent learner as he grows older.

If your daughter can work independently, and is comfortable at this level, then I see no reason to worry, or feel guilty. You are preparing your child for adulthood, and the independence she is learning now, will enable her towards success. I see teaching your child to be an independent learner as a crucial part of homeschooling.

God bless you and your family!

Laura Nicholson