Dear Mom,

Well I won't say that boys are my specialty, I did have 5 and they presented unique challenges that made homeschooling a journey in patience. I think that when we are teaching our boys we must remain focused on the priorities that we are teaching. For example you state that your little guy is not reading as of yet. This is the priority. All too often students will channel their energy in areas that are counterproductive in order to escape what must be done. By focusing on the priority that needs to be met we serve the whole much better. Once your little boy is reading and seems capable then he is ready to branch out to other areas.

The other little gem I learned with my boys is the need for them to be active outside and to have outside activities. For example you know that your son is smart and I bet that the problem with memorization is not even evident when he memorizes something that he is eager to remember. Think about the many things that he has memorized already. If the spelling list is long cut it back to half and have him memorize only half the words. Better success than frustration. Gradually when he sees that he is able to master this he will have the confidence to move on. Between successes let there be plenty of time for outside play. Does he like sports? Encourage that skill and allow that this healthy outdoor play can indeed improve his ability to concentrate. For example, have him play a game with another brother whereby they play four square and spell the words that you want him to spell. This may sound silly to you, but to an energetic little boy this is a grand compromise.

Do not allow anger to rule the situations in your home. Separate the offenders and give the children space to clear their heads and cool down. Teaching children to count down to calm down is very healthy and can be a lifelong skill that will serve them well. Lecturing seems to be tedious and most little boys are too busy for this. Make certain that the boys know what is expected and that they know the results for behavior that is hurtful. Pick your battles carefully or you will battle the entire day. Stress what is important.

I am of a mind that all children are good and desire to please those that they love. This is our greatest gift when working with children. Praise and encouragement go a long way to effecting positive behavior.

Let us pray this afternoon for all those families that struggle with issues related to financial lack. Let us pray that doors will be opened and opportunities will be presented that will allow these families to move forward and be released from the burden of crushing debt. Lord we rest in Your embrace and in this sanctuary we gain our strength. Lord You love us more deeply than we can comprehend, please allow the grace necessary to let this overwhelming love to be our comfort. Amen.

Sending out a prayer,

Rita Munn